Drink for “The Shoulders”

I’m writing to the sweet hearted, the ones who usually have the right words to ease pain. I’m referring to those with the gift of listening, the ones who make their shoulders available for people to lean on.

Hello sweetheart! Yes, it’s you I want to have this conversation with. Ever wondered why you sometimes feel disturbed without any reason? Like a load on your shoulders you really can’t explain? I used to feel same during my early years as a counselor but it changed the day I came across a video that talked about it.

I can’t remember who or where I saw the video but the message hasn’t left since then. It taught me that the burden isn’t mine to bear. When people come to you or confide in you about issues in their life, remember to drop it at God’s feet at the end of the day. Don’t just stop at listening and giving advice. Talk to God about it when they’re gone.

And there’s the other part we don’t really talk about. The part where people who give shoulders might be without shoulders when they’re in need of it. You really want to vent but no one is available at that moment. Or even if there is, you’re hearing tales of how much of a strong person you are, even before you’re done talking. Different things you’ve experienced that has made you go through your bad days alone. Only on rare occasions have you had shoulders to lean on.

I wish I had a solution for you after all I’ve been typing since but trust me, I can relate. There are times I’ve told myself “Get up Mimi! No one is coming to save you”. Times I’ve learnt to trust God for a shoulder.

Well, I want you to know that sometimes, “shoulder to lean on” might not necessarily mean an human that’ll give you listening ears while you rant. Don’t bottle up everything because you don’t have anyone that can understand you. Bottling up might choke you.

You can lock yourself up and just talk — just imagine God sitting right in front of you. Like just keep talking, freely display your emotions, ask questions and all. When you’re done, you can wipe your tears and continue your normal life but… ensure you pay attention. God might have a reply to your rant — dispose that thought of hearing God call you in a loud voice alone because He speaks in different ways. It might be through a stranger, a friend that isn’t aware of the bad day, a video you’ll come across, this blog post you’re reading, a word on your mind or even through your own mouth. Whichever way, it’s usually a reminder that God is aware of your storm.

Remember, talking about your storm (situation ship) is a therapy. That sudden breathing too deep “hmmmmm” is dangerous to your health. Say it! Let it off your chest!