Mouth Fall

In my years of dealing with people, I’ve noticed a behavioural pattern with people who easily get swept off their feet by words. It’s most times, a problem that started from the root.

People who easily let their guards down once there’s two or more sweet words used to describe them. Situations where just rubbing of a guy’s head and describing him with sweet words could make him empty his bank account. Or where a simple “you’re beautiful” would get some ladies into a guy’s bed. “You’re the nicest person in this compound” and someone is ready to give out all their belongings.

It’s unfortunate that there are people who take advantage of people like that. Once a manipulator spots that, it’s usually a disaster that might end the victim. And it’s why it needs to be addressed.

There’s also the part where a person without ulterior motive gets dragged into a situationship. Like saying actual words you mean to encourage people or give them their well deserved accolades. And gbam! They convert it into green light because no one has ever said that to them.Then, the next moment — they’re having thoughts about you being in love with them.

And the root it most time starts from? The home! The family! Your house! Parents really need to be intentional about showing their kids love. Let your children feel loved at home. Sweet words shouldn’t easily sway them off their feet if you’ve been giving them doses of it at home. There are monsters ready to feed on people’s vulnerability. Show your children genuine love, don’t keep repeating words that’ll affect their self esteem, avoid unnecessary comparisons that might make them end up never feeling enough. Correct them in love — tough love should never be an option.

If you fit into the shoes, don’t feel like a stupid person for all the times you’ve fallen prey. Now that you’re ready to adjust, I must inform you that root issues isn’t something that only determination to change would help. You can see a therapist and invite your Creator to walk you through the journey. Remember, it’s a step at a time — different duration for different people.