Many times, we’ve been looked in the eye and told lies. Lies that we sometimes suspect, but you know that talk about giving people benefit of doubt. Or lies we never doubted because of the trust we have for the person it’s coming from.
Simi once said “lie to me if the truth will break my heart” but no darling, that doesn’t work for everyone. I prefer to hear it now than discovering you lied about it. There’s even a way I mutter “at least, (s)he didn’t lie” and forgive more easily when I hear something heartbreaking or annoying.
…but you lied to me? Worst case when I see the evidence myself. A disaster when I had previously ignored the red light and trusted you anyway.
Just like anger, there are different ways people react to being aware of a lie. How you react also depends on the person involved — a relative, someone you’re in love with, a stranger, a trusted friend, a colleague at work e.t.c.
There’s a saying amongst my people that even if a lie go on for many years, the truth is also coming someday. So, why lie? Isn’t it better the person hear it from you than to be told by an outsider?
And if your reason for telling a lie is because you don’t want to hurt the person with the truth, also think of how the person would feel when they eventually get to know you deceived them — you freaking fooled them.
Awareness sometime brings pain but it’s better than the pain of discovering you were lied to.
