Black is Black

So, this isn’t the normal “friends are bad”, “(s)he broke my heart”, “The hurt is deeper than I imagine…” kind of post.

Most times, we’re quick to point fingers — shading people who have wronged us. Infact, we enjoy talking about the negative things we don’t like in people.

…but do we ever pause to examine our own self? Almost everyone has something to say about bad friends or relatives. So, who are the bad eggs exactly? Do they live in the sky or we walk on the same ground?

What’s your contribution to reducing negative relationships? Can I count on you to teach your child to see the good in my child if they end up as classmates? Can you count on me to teach my child to be a good listener?

Multiple times, it’s been established that communication is an important key to improving relationships. Do our action give people reasons to talk to us again, about what they’re not cool with?

Everyone has their own flaw but what we do with it matters. Some people massage theirs — indifference attitude garnished with wanting everyone to accept you that way. Your attitude stinks bro, do something! And we have those who make effort to change — prioritizing being a better version. That’s how it should be!

I’m not telling you to accept everything and try to change anytime someone complains about something. It’s important to understand that some people will project their fear on you and carve out a flaw for you. That’s where self reflection comes in. Most times, we’re aware of our flaws — but not everytime. If you’re hearing something strange, ask yourself questions and talk to a neutral person. After all, we’re all humans under construction.

We’ve all intentionally or unintentionally hurt other people in the past. It should be you, me — everyone of us being aware of our baggages and set for the journey of change. Let’s be intentional about getting better and quit being in search of who would condone our bad behaviour. Black is black — light black or dark black is giving turnioniown vibes. Bad behaviour is bad behaviour!

Till I’m back to stir the drink, stay gbam!