Can we all agree that the craziest people in the world are those who’d hurt you and try to dictate how you should feel. Babanlaku loose head knot! Yeah, let’s refer to them as Reaction Doctor.
Reaction Doctors would tell you someone did the same thing to them and they didn’t die, so you shouldn’t be as angry as you are. As how now? You embraced shits thrown at you doesn’t mean you should throw it at other people too. You willingly accepted it.
When you hurt people, it’s not in your place to tell them how to react. Always remember you’re not the one carrying the weight. We all have different emotional capacity — words and actions weigh on us differently.
Avoid the urge to defend your hurtful words or actions with “it’s not that deep na”, “someone can’t even play with you”, “you’re too uptight” e.t.c. When you realise the negative effect it has on the victim, just apologize. Leave all those “ejo wewe” (petty talks).
Our emotional capacity is built up by different factors — hereditary, PTSD, pain. Behind those smiles on people’s faces is sometimes wound they’re yet to heal from. So, when next you say something or do something you didn’t think would hit the wrong spot on people, don’t make it worse by tagging them “angry bird”. You never can tell where they’re coming from.
And that’s why I’d always talk about the importance of getting healed of past hurt. You can’t run from it forever — someone or something would surely trigger it. Address that hurt, examine it, make conscious effort to get that healing you deserve.
Till I’m back to stir the drink, stay gbam!
I learnt this from different ladies. I realize they take things seriously but me on the other hand take most things with levity. So, I realize how much my actions and inactions can affect them and I adjust.
Knowing when and how to adjust 💯✅.
Thanks for engaging, chief.